How Victim-Playing Abusers Use Empathy-Based Guilt – Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A

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Brandon discusses how victim-playing abusers use empathy-based guilt to control, manipulate, avoid taking responsibility, get attention, and abuse throughout every stage of an abusive relationship.

This episode discusses idealization, devaluation, post separation abuse, gaslighting, minimization, blame shifting, hoovering, trauma, isolation, jealousy, self defense, smear campaigns, suicide threats, self harm, and much more.

*** CONTENT WARNING – This episode mentions suicide threats and self harm. ***

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