Lana & The Coercive Controlling Abuser – Domestic Violence, Narcissist Abuse, IPV

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Lana met her future husband at a bar. He was very handsome. Dark chestnut hair. Hazel eyes. Long eyelashes. Olive skin. And a perfect smile. Lana felt she was lucky to get his attention. But unfortunately for Lana, appearances are not always what they seem, and Lana found herself married to an abusive coercive controller.

It’s a story of coercive control, IPV, sexual coercion, victim playing, belittling, shame, fixing, child sexual abuse, sowing the seeds of doubt, fear, isolation, gaslighting, blame shifting, love bombing, trauma bonding, addiction, minimization, crazy making, self blame, bad police officers, intimidation, rage, depression, low self-esteem, disappearing acts, jealousy, and much more.

*** CONTENT WARNING – This episode graphically discusses child hood sexual abuse, adult physical abuse (IPV), and adult sexual coercion/abuse/assault. ***

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