Kelowna, The Narcissistic Mother, & The Controlling Abusive Husband

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Nothing Kelowna ever did was good enough for her abusive mother. All Kelowna knew was an ever-present sense of worthlessness as her mother’s scapegoat. By the age of 14, Kelowna’s mother pushed her right into the hands of her future abusive husband. And by the age of 20, Kelowna was pregnant and stuck in a very controlling relationship.

It’s a story of not feeling good enough, caretaking, parentification, manipulation, insecurities, feeling stuck, financial abuse, infidelity, no contact, sexual abuse, physical abuse, and much more.

*** CONTENT WARNING – This episode discusses physical abuse and sexual abuse. ***

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